We’ve talked about it before, but here we are again, talking about it. Not talking about your typical vaginal intercourse, which at best requires the physical prowess of a gymnast or the strength of an oxygen hose, but rather a vaginal orgasm that occurs when I then I giver I and I the I receiver are one.
It is easily achieved, but difficult to achieve if you don’t know what you are doing. A well-meaning spouse or partner may be sending you signals that he or she wants to try something new, but if you are not experienced in these vaginal orgasm techniques there is a tendency to go for the wrong idea. And one of the mistakes that women make is thinking that any other stimulation technique will do the trick.
There aren’t any magic solutions or one size fits all techniques that will send you to planet earth in a week, but there are a few simple steps you can take to ensure that you are on the right track and that the right climax is on the menu.
The Vagina is a Handbook of Regulated Substances
Make it a point to thoroughly research the potential physical causes of your anxiety. By the way, anxiety is a mind-body problem, so to correct this problem you have to engage your mind in the act of love.uffs.net- There is a plethora of information available- varying from denial & denial zones, to the usual sexperts- but the best way to go for practical tips is to focus on self-empowerment. Know what you like, and what you don’t like, and learn ways to work around those problems that you do like. In other words, know yourself.
The more you know yourself, the better the experts can be. However, this requires that you acknowledge your emotions, relax, and let go. Too many women are estranged from their sexuality and deprive themselves of the knowledge needed to be happy with who they are in their bodies. This is too important for our purposes to ignore.
Animate Your Mind
There is a fundamental aspect of how to have sex that most of us ignore-the mental aspect. In other words, we do whatever we are doing because of what we think about it, rather than what we know about how to have sex effectively. You don’t have to be transformed from a nun who has learned the art of celibacy to be effective in this situation. Rather than focusing on climaxing, stop worrying about that and just be in the moment. The way to do this is to be focused on the connection happening at every moment. Focusing on how you are feeling in the present moment, you can more clearly visualize your hand, your fingers, your wrists, and so on being part of the act.
Be In The Moment
Don’t get caught up in the mind’s distraction. Rather use the senses to be in the present moment. Sensuality is a motion that imagines the journey, not the destination. Rather enjoy the moment and look not only at your partner’s face but also at your partner’s body, particularly the non-genital parts of his body like the scrotum and the anus.
Use your whole body, not just your hands and fingers. Feel the sensation of touching your partner’s body. Feel the pleasure of touching him or her. And don’t think about climaxing. If you do expect to climax, you’re setting yourself up for a huge letdown. And the last thing you want is a big letdown right before this one major event.
You have to approach foreplay and sex with very little patience. Just let go and let be. Have fun and enjoy every touch, every kiss, every yard, and every moment of your sexual exploration. And as you explore, have a strong emotional connection with your partner. This will dramatically increase your likelihood of making a climax.
